Even though the day has moved on,
my story is still in that day,
the dyson dive day.

Soon after the phone call from my son,
I got a text message from the ex,
I thought it was about our daughter, that
the kids had rang him, but it wasnt, they didnt.

It was about his mam, she is sick again, and
he had her at the hospital that day, she
will need another op, to remove a tumor,
she is in her late eighties, and although it is
a secondary tumor, its still a worry.

I was so sorry to hear that, even though we never
got on, she never liked me from day one, this I have
mentioned before. Anyway, that doesnt matter, I have
know her for 25 years, and she is an old woman, I didnt like
to hear that she would have to go through the mill again, its an
awful thing. I texted this too him (without the she didnt like me bit)

We got into a few texts but each one came from him
apart from the first one, was about what it meant for him,
here I go again,
the others will have to help out
more this time, he has two brothers one in the UK
the other lives with his mother, doesnt drive and is useless
in a crisis. So he probably will have to do it all,
but that is not the point, he never lamented for his mother,
it was the poor me syndrome, I kept replying your poor mam,
I am sorry for her, and he finally got the message on my third text
and replied, yeah, its not good, I'll do what I can.

I replied its all anyone can ask. I think he took it as
a dig, because that was the last text, but anyway, I was took up
with the phone calls re the dyson dive, and didnt realise there was
no reply until later that evening when I read back the texts.

The kids never called him, when I got home, after dinner,
I sent him a text asking him to call when he wasnt busy,
and he did, I told him what had happened, then put him on
to the injured daughter, she told him she was fine, and then
shocked me with, a reply to a question he asked her,
Why would we call, what would you do anyway, we called Mam,
we knew she would help and she did, we are grand, there was
no need to call you.

I dont know how he felt about that comment, but it cut me to
the quick, the damage to our family sometimes is hidden, and
then at moments like that it is out there glaring us in the
face.