Last night I visited my friend to say 'au revoir'
I do however hope it is a long time before I see her again.

That is not a horrible statement, it is a statement,
filled with hope and expectation,
and good and glorious wishes.

No, she is not dead, or dying, thank goodness.
She is my longtime, do the marathon,
wear non pregnancy pants friend.
The newly unhappy divorced woman friend
I referred to many times in
hismidlifemycrisis.

Three weeks ago, we talked about her life,
well we talked about her and my life many many times,
because since she came home, we were back to our
always hanging out days. Anyway, her kids live with him,
she still loves him,
but the divorce may her reevaluate her life
and she has what I call,
got her head on straight.

She came home to Ireland, because she had no choice really,
he didnt want her there, she couldnt provide for herself
on her own, never mind the kids
so even though it goes against my grain,
she did the right thing and came home.

It has been so hard for her, and I am so proud of her,
the way she got her life back together,
her health had been poor, and alot of
the time she was away with the fairies as I call it.
I love this girl but she had a big battle on her hands,
and she won.
She won I think because she accepted her faults,
acknowledged her failures, and overcame them,
but mostly because she came home, to the love and support
of her family and friends,
and like me she has a best sister,
who I believe saved her.

Her husband, in this year apart, other than 3 visits,
was dealing with everything, the kids,
the house, his job, the schools,
the shopping, everything, and anyone who is on their own,
can tell you
that is not easy, and when its a new thing,
like in his and my case,
its bloody awful.

Her husband, is a nice guy, maybe I still say that
because he never cheated on her, there was no one else.
I think his midlife crisis,
which came before my lad, was brought on,
by the difficulties in their marriage, he thought
life with her was too hard,
he thought she contributed nothing of substance
to their lives, and he and his kids where better off without her,
this of course is only my opinion,
but that is what I think.

Without her, he learned exactly what she did
to keep his life running,
if not smoothly, then running on time mostly.
The kids, now teens of course,
are typical teens, and give him a hard time,
a normal hard time, that comes with
the teenager, and when he saw her the last two visits,
and with phone calls,
I think he realised they needed her.

Now at the moment its not all bells and whistles,
she is so happy to be going back
to her family, but she is going to the kids,
and if anything else happens with him,
well good, but it is not the first reason she is going,
she always knew they needed
her, but they needed the better her more.

I am so happy for her, I will miss her of course,
but always wanted her to be there,
with them, its where she belongs,
as for her hubby, I hope it goes okay,
and if not, I hope they can cope with being around each other
for the kids sake, not living a lie,
I mean, they are being open and honest about where they are at,
they are not together,
they are just pulling together.
Its a weird, but it could be wonderful....

My dad, asked, well seeing as you two do everything around the same time,
we had our kids
same age, same sex, blah blah,
what is happening in your life, will you be going back
will he be coming back, its up to you.
Sadly I gave him my answer,
No Da, Never.

For Jen, my fingers are crossed,
We will always be here for you but,

You Go girl.